In life, there is ALWAYS, something going on, good, bad, and or the ugly. We have always lived in & through times, that either will make you, break you, or all of the above. No one has a “perfect” life, no matter how wonderful they are. Because we exist in an imperfect world. It is imperative to our survival & betterment as human beings, to dismantle & destroy the distractive diversionary tactics, put in place to impede our elevation in life.
People will do you wrong, do others wrong, and even wrong themselves. Those people are all…US, at one time or another. The point is to learn, do better (not try anymore, be like Nike – “JUST DO IT!”), change, become better people, and help our Brothers & Sisters through life.
Some? Will also choose to remain in their own private Hells…You cannot save them, no matter how much you love them, unless they choose to. They, just like you & I, have to make their own choices in life. You do not stay stuck with them. Love them, but leave them to their choices, or you will drown with them. YOU MUST KEEP MOVING! Because your progression, strength, & love, will help so many others. And life is so gloriously unpredictable, that you may not be able to save your loved ones personally, but another just might, if we change for the better and spread it like wildfire!
WE CAN CHANGE THE UNIVERSE!!! One-by-One, if we start within Self, “Be, and Be The Change You Want To See In The World.”
🌹🌍✍🏾”We’re All In This Thing Called Life, TOGETHER…Remember?”✍🏾🌍🌹
I have been silent for a few days. I was thinking of recent & past situations. I have learned to calm my emotions, before responding.
“A clear & calm mind & heart produces clear actions.”
That being said… We had this “Me Too” movement, that didn’t really help many, in everyday life. I find that sexual harassment is still running rampant. You can still find it everywhere & yes, it’s in the Poetry world as well, BIG-TIME. Things are just more subtle. Like the movements of a hungry snake. Keeping in mind, it occurs more from men towards women, but it happens across the board.
So what do we do about it? How many people really wish to address it? Not many. Because it’s EVERYWHERE and we know, it will take more than just a few old celebrities going to jail. It’s wa-a-a-ay deeper than that. This type of behavior is systematic & cultural. As women, we’re often forced to deal with it, like it or not. Men, often do not wish to discuss it, many feel uncomfortable because they’re guilty of it or just don’t know how to help. Is it fair? No.
So, one has to be aware in life. Don’t just trust people because you think you should; this can be friends, family, loved ones, co-workers, anyone, pay attention to those vibes/feelings you get that says something isn’t quite right, shut it down immediately, or as soon as you notice it – it may come at a sacrifice, but it’s worth it in the long run. Don’t feel guilty because you experienced it.
Educate yourself and get wise, these people have perfected their game, and become masters of manipulation. Own any role you have in it, and correct yourself, be firm and clear where you stand.
See, people who sexually harass others, hope you go along or keep silent. It has much to do with power & control. They seek leverage with their authority, positions, & roles they may have in life. People who are charming & expressive by nature make great manipulators. Certain professions; law enforcement, judges, doctors, teachers, mentors, even people you know, love & care about. This also includes musicians, writers, and Poets. Be Careful! They can talk & woo you into a place, you may not want to be. It really includes anyone. Should you be paranoid & scared of everyone? No. Simply be mindful & pay attention.
Stand Up For Yourself!
It may be difficult, but only YOU can do so. Delete, block, & ignore. Let it be known that, that type of treatment, behavior, and or innuendo is not acceptable nor will it be entertained, encouraged, or tolerated, and walk away from whatever they had on the table,
SHUT IT DOWN!
…even if it means losing out on certain opportunities – it could be a few in a group or 1 person, but you cross paths due to projects/ jobs. It’s not easy to deal with, and for some, therapy is needed and even legal assistance. We lose out often. It’s time to put an end to this.
KNOW THAT YOU ARE DOING THE RIGHT THING
Waking up EVERY day, looking at yourself in the mirror feeling good about who YOU are, thengoing to bed the same way & sleeping well…That? That’s priceless.
Remember, that no one has the right to try to use you or make you feel less than who you are.
The Positivity Derived: These types of experiences can be utilized & benefited from, by talking about it, encouraging research, development, creativity, and or inventing opportunities and other methods of getting things done.
🌹✍🏾”We’re All In This Thing Called Life, TOGETHER…Remember?”✍🏾🌹
“Namastè & One Love”❤️💛💚
~Maxwanette A Poetess
*A Special Thank You: To the 1 gentleman that I shared this experience with. He stated, he would support me in my stand. That means a lot.
Are We Still Sitting Here, Letting Good People Pass Us By?…
Stop the foolishness, get rid of pride, anger, resentment, jealousy, ego or whatever it is that’s got you acting stupid.
If you meet or have a good person in your life or vicinity? What are you waiting for? Stop playing foolish games. Because if you don’t? You’ll lose out on a good thing. You’ll either end up or stay with someone, who isn’t the one, be lonely & miserable, or get to have a front seat, to the life of the “one that got away.”
Why? Because you’re busy being scared, not getting your act together, not being genuine, or simply being an ass. STOP IT!
This is a major issue. If one isn’t in need of this type of assistance? Then that’s an awesome thing. You maybe able to assist someone that does. But Mental Health & dealing with stress, play a big part in living a healthy life. I know too many, that are scared & ashamed to seek help, yet they suffer in silence. Not everyone needs medication (there are many options available today), yet some do. Sometimes, But often, people just need someone to talk to, show them different ways to view things, and or to connect with others who maybe going through the similar situations.
As Black people, we rarely trust the medical or psychiatric system (at times rightfully so), leaving us to go untreated & unhelped. It’s okay to admit that things aren’t alright, they’re not okay, and that you need help. I’ve seen many in my own family, battle with various stages of mental illness. I too battled it when I was younger, for trauma & abuse affects us all differently.
The point of my mini novel? GET HELP. Don’t just sit there ignoring it or hiding in shame. ~Maxwanette A Poetess
🌹✍🏾”We’re All In This Thing Called Life, TOGETHER…Remember?”✍🏾🌹